Something Borrowed – الرد على بعض النقاط لموضوع

كــــاتب المـــــوضوع

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هذا الموضوع كتبته للرد على بعض ما ذكرته الاخت

Faithq8

لموضوعها

Something Borrowed

والذي تكلمت فيه عن تعدد الزوجات وزواج الرجل بزوجة ثانية

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في البداية أحب أن اوضح بأن من يتزوج بأُخرى يجب ان يكون عادلاً بين الزوجتين ولا يجوز له ان يقوم بظلم واحدة على حساب الاخرى

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ذكرت الزميلة

Faithq8

في الموضوع

The most basic principle is equality. I know, you’re thinking “well I divide my days and money blah blah”. No buddy. You can’t ever be equal. You can never ever evenly divide your love between two (let alone 4) women. You cannot. Don’t kid yourself.

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العدل في الآية الكريمة ((فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ))سورة النساء آية3 ،  المقصود فيه ليس الحب بالتساوي ، فليس هناك مانع ان يحب الرجل زوجة أكثر من زوجة ، والعدل المقصود به هنا هو العدل بشتى الجوانب ، كالعدل في المعاملة اللينة مع الزوجة وإعطاء كل زوجة حقها في المال والحق في المبيت بين الزوجتين ولا يقوم بهجر زوجة أشهر مثلا لانه يحب زوجة ثانية وفي الأمور الأخرى ، ولكن لا يجب عليه ان يحب زوجتان بنفس القدر ، وأيضا  لا يجوز له ان يظلم زوجة على حساب زوجته الأُخرى

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لا يستطيع الإنسان ان يطبق العدل المطلق بين الزوجات فالعادل الوحيد هو الله عز وجل ، فحتى عندما يحب الرجل اولاده في بعض الأحيان يحب ولد أكثر من آخر ولا يستطيع العدل في كل شيء فالإنسان يخطىء وهو ليس معصوم عن الخطأ ، ولكنه يبذل المزيد من الجهد حتى يوفر حياة كريمة للزوجتين من غير أن يمارس الظلم في حقهم

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فالرجل إذا كانت زوجته إنسانة مؤمنة ولا ينقصها شيء ووجد امرأة اخرى أيضا خلوقة ومؤمنة وحتى لو أُعجب – بجانب هذه المواصفات – بها لأنها جميلة فليس هناك مانع بأن يتزوجها ولا ينقص من قدره شيء ولا يجعله انانياً او خائناً ، ولا ننسى طبعا شرط العدل ، فلا يظلم زوجته الأولى بينما زوجته الثانية تعيش في سعادة وهناء

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فلا يجب ان نتهم رجل بأنه أناني ولا يحب إلا نفسه ولا يفكر إلا بأفكار جنسية لأنه تزوج بامرأة أخرى ، فإذا كان الرجل يحب ابناءه ويعدل بين زوجاته فليس هناك أي مانع بالزواج بثالثة ورابعة أيضاً ، ولا ينتقص هذا أبدا من قدره لأن الإسلام أحل له الزواج بأربع نساء كما تقول الآية الكريمة

((وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَىٰ فَانْكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَاثَ وَرُبَاعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا)) النساء آية 3

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نعم هناك جانب عاطفي للموضوع ، وهو الحزن للزواج من امراة اخرى وهذا شيء ربما يثير الغضب لدى بعض الناس ، ولكن إذا اجاز الله للإنسان ان يتزوج بأخرى شرط أن يكون عادلاً فليس هناك ما يمنع الرجل بالزواج من امرأة ثانية

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ولا بد ان أذكر بأن هناك الكثير من الناس يتزوجون بثانية وثالثة ولكنهم يمارسون الظلم ، وهذا شيء لا يحق للرجل أبدا ان يفعله ، فيجب على الزوج ان يجعل زوجته تعيش حياة كريمة فهو المسؤول الأول عنها ، ولا يجب ان يقوم بظلمها لمجرد انها لا تعجبه ، فكما أن للرجل حقوق فللمراة حقوق أيضا ، ولا يجب ان يظلم حقها لمجرد انها امراة فهذا تخلف نهى الإسلام عنه ، فالإسلام هو دين العدل والمساواة

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وكما ذكرت سابقاً وأعيد تكريره هنا ، أن الرجل إذا كان عادلاً بين زوجاته فليس هناك مانع ان يُحب زوجة اكثر من زوجة اخرى ، فالإنسان لا يستطيع ان يتحكم بمشاعره ، فهناك من يفضل ابنه الكبير على ابنه الصغير ، او يحب أبوه أكثر من امه وهذا ليس ظلماً بل هو قلب يعشق ويحب بدرجات وليس التساوي بالمشاعر شرط او واجب على الإنسان

والحمد لله رب العالمين

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تحـــياتي

Something Borrowed.

Before I introduce my topic, let me begin by saying that I will not apologize. I refuse to apologize for my feelings, my anger or my criticism. Now that that has been said, allow me to take a moment to thank my lucky stars that my father is as loyal and as sacrificing as he is. I love you baba.

Some of you readers will sympathize and agree with me,  some of you wont. Fair enough. Some of you may be victims, bystanders or some of you may even be the very ones I will openly attack in this post as the selfish, arrogant beings you are. There are some who may be cowards and others who I have yet to decide on a name for. In any case, something despicable.

Before I talk at length about this, may I also add that I do not criticize my religion. I love my religion. But there are those who abuse our laws by twisting them to their own advantage -excuses, if you may- and pledge that they are living to the accordance of Islamic laws.

My topic dear reader, is multiple marriage. Now I will talk at length, so read closely.

Let’s start with religion shall we? Before we get into the web of feelings.

The first excuse a man makes when he takes on a new wife is “the shari3a allows me to have 4 wives and therefore I have done nothing that violates my religion.” Yaay! So you think you know your stuff eyh? Do you also know the conditions on which you may take on a bride while committed to another? The most basic principle is equality. I know, you’re thinking “well I divide my days and money blah blah”. No buddy. You can’t ever be equal. You can never ever evenly divide your love between two (let alone 4) women. You cannot. Don’t kid yourself.

Excuse number two: “she doesn’t give me what I need”. You have clean clothes in your closet? Food on the table when you’re hungry? Conceived kids? Does she not smile in your face?! Does she not tend to you when you’re ill? Yes? No? Re-prioritize your needs.

Excuse number three: “I can’t stand life with her” Did you talk to her about your problems? Did you try again and again to make your life a better one for your family’s sake? DiD YOU?! I assume not. Because if you had done so and failed, you’d be divorced. Or, you wouldn’t have lived a secret parallel life if you had felt justified. I know some men do not keep their marriages a secret, but the common case is that they do.

Excuse number 4: “She’s grown old and unattractive” Lovely. And you’ve gotten younger? Is she not still by your side accepting Your old age? Is she in a wheel chair? Take a good look at yourself, you aren’t exactly a Tom Cruise double are you?

Excuse number 5: “I fell in love” Seriously, this is one of the excuses that more than any other, would make me itch for a baseball bat to club the face of the guy who says this. You are a cheating, disloyal liar. You were married. You were married and you were able to CONSIDER looking at someone else. You had an emotional affair. An affair that is condemned by the religion you so confidently blanket yourself with. You favored your lust over the stability of your family.

You see that woman? The woman who you see as old, too busy for you, unattractive and maybe angry? Go kiss her hands that you think are too rough because they got rough scrubbing and cleaning for you. Go kiss those eyes that you see as too aged because they aged crying out of agony because of you. Go kiss the head you see full of grey and white for those hairs are a result of raising your children while you were tending to your secret life. Maybe she’s been busy and tired raising a family that you thought was not enough. On second thought, don’t kiss any of those things. Because you don’t deserve to.

If your wife left you when you took another, I salute her. She should have given you the boot long ago anyway. If you’re happy that she hasn’t.. be grateful ’cause trust me she didn’t do it for you. You see that little boy that grew into twice the man you think you are? That little girl who grew into a wonderful woman? That’s who she did it for. Not for you. She didn’t do it so that you wouldn’t have a family, she did it so that her children wouldn’t grow up wondering why They didn’t have one.

I know some men feel justified; like they have a thousand excuses or maybe even one good one. But the truth of the matter is that you don’t. No matter how horrible your wife was or how badly you wanted someone else, you made a commitment in front of God and everyone else to honor your wife. Your family. You were weaker than to save your marriage and your children. You didn’t save them. You can’t. Because nothing you do can erase the pain you brought on them for having a “borrowed” father. You took the easy way out.

Being a father – a parent – is NOT a part-time job. It ISN’T. And it sure as hell is not part of dividing your life between two different women! Whether you get divorced, married, remarried or decide to hitch it with a bloody frog your kids have NOTHING to do with it!

You can’t win both ways. You won’t.

I’m going to apologize now, but not to those unforgivable men. I will apologize to those women who became victims.

I have never known your pain and I hope I never will. Perhaps I don’t even fully understand it. But I’m sorry. Because I used to judge you. I used to think that staying with a man who has betrayed you was foolish. I now realize just how wrong I was. You are not foolish. You are brave. You are the strongest women on earth because you’re strong for those kids. Because unlike your ungrateful husband, you still have not given up. Because your heart is bigger than his soul. You are brave, wonderful women and nothing will ever demean that. If someone chooses someone else over you, they have bad taste. Be proud of who you are and what you’ve done for your family.

And you Mr? Shame on you. Shame on you for doing what you’ve done to your family. Shame on you for breaking their hearts and letting their tears fall and for ever making them feel like they weren’t enough. Shame on you for hurting the woman who sacrificed their youth, sweat, blood and tears for you. She is much more beautiful than any woman you’ll ever meet because she is the woman who stood strong, held her family together and didn’t tear it apart no matter how much it hurt. I can’t understand what beauty there is to see in a person who would allow herself to be the cause of ruin in another woman’s life.

There is no excuse. So don’t make them.

I really do hope that by the end of this post, all those men who have done so will understand what they’ve done. If you have built new families, be good to your children and make it up to those you’ve hurt. Tell them they deserve better. Tell your children they’re more than enough. Because they are. Do something to make things right before you leave this world.

If you want to strangle me (as I think you might), let me put it this way. Look at your daughter. Look at the joy of her young innocence. Would you allow it to be stolen away? Would you allow someone to hurt her and scar her heart? I didn’t think so. So why let it happen to your wife? She was someone’s little  girl too.

Your children should never have to feel like you’re something borrowed. Make sure they don’t. It’s the least you can do. None of you kids should ever have to feel like they can’t reach out for you. Don’t bring them into the world just to make their world fall apart.

..It’s amazing what strength God has poured into us women. And they call us weak. Hmph. Look at your wife if you don’t believe me. She’s a breathing example. She can swallow her pain and forgive and still be loyal. She can still love wholly with her broken heart. She can still smile at what I cannot imagine surviving. I wish I was as strong as her. I just pray that I never have to be.

A wife is not a slave. She is not some wrapper u can use up and throw aside. She should be treated as the queen she rightly is.

MS Treatment – Stolen Hope?

Multiple sclerosis (MS) is a nervous system disease that affects your brain and spinal cord. It damages the myelin sheath, the material that surrounds and protects your nerve cells. This damage slows down or blocks messages between your brain and your body, leading to the symptoms of MS. They can include:

  • Visual disturbances
  • Muscle weakness
  • Trouble with coordination and balance
  • Sensations such as numbness, prickling, or “pins and needles”
  • Thinking and memory problems

No one knows what causes MS. It may be an autoimmune disease, which happens when your body attacks itself. Multiple sclerosis affects women more than men. It often begins between the ages of 20 and 40. Usually, the disease is mild, but some people lose the ability to write, speak or walk.

This disease was once very rare in Kuwait, but the number of MS patients in Kuwait has escalated rapidly to 18,000 cases of Kuwaiti Nationality only. No one knows why the number of MS patients has grown so viciously in recent years, but the effects of MS on its victims are brutal. Any possible neurological symptoms can affect an MS patient, including but not limited to, extensive depression which can even lead to eventual suicide.

However, when Dr Paolo Zamboni’s wife, an Italian professor of medicine in the University of Ferrara, was diagnosed with this disease, he was determined to find a cure. In 1995, Dr Zamboni discovered a breakthrough that can change the lives of all MS patients drastically.

What was once seen as a potentially debilitating neurological disease and an autoimmune condition was proven to be a vascular disease.

Since 1995 no one has believed in Dr Zamboni’s research. But thanks to the strong faith of our skilled doctors, here in our own country, a clinical trial had begun little over a month ago in Mubarak AlKabeer Hospital.

Dr Tariq Sinan, Dr Abdulaziz AlMuzaini and Dr Hussain Saffar have successfully conducted their clinical trial on 12 MS patients. All 12 cases have witnessed miraculous results. Patients were able to move again and have full function of their limbs. Limbs which have been immobile for years.

The entire procedure takes no more than 15 minutes. 15 minutes that can change thousands of people’s lives and end their suffering. The procedure is pretty simple. They begin by preforming a doppler, a sonar investigation, and an MRI of the veins, to see if there is a narrowing in the neck veins, then go on to dilating the veins to relive pressure. The patient is cured instantly on the table once the dilation is complete.

Patients who have not been able to walk due to loosing sense in their legs are now able to wiggle their toes and weep at the sight. Patients who have not been able to feed themselves because of lost sensory in their arms are now eating happily and independently.


Dr Zamboni has come up with a miraculous cure that no one had considered, and Dr Sinan, Dr Almuzaini and Dr Saffar have begun to spread the cure here in Kuwait.

So.. where’s the problem, right?

If a cure has been found, a clinical trial has been conducted with successful results.. then where’s the problem?

That’s what everyone is asking the Health Minister of Kuwait after he ordered the clinical trial to be shut down.

Why cut off the only hope all these young patients had? The excuse so far is that the trial is still considered in its research stages and the minister has deemed it “risky”. Where the sense in that is, I don’t know!

I mean, the doctors conducting the trial are extremely capable and have taken out all the necessary research! Other than the fact that all 12 cases have gone through successfully, the trial is ethically permitted since all patients sign a form of responsibility in entering the trial, after the risks have been explained to them fully!

So, where’s the problem?!

Everyone’s still waiting for an answer. Why ban a treatment which thousands of Kuwaitis and residents in Kuwait need so desperately? People are suffering. Young people. Their lives have been halted; they can’t walk, speak, remember the people around them, feed or dress themselves.. they can’t recognize their own children, get married, work, or lead independent lives.. and all that can stop. All that can be cured. For 12 lucky people, all that has already been cured.

We are asking the minister of health to give the doctors back their ability to heal. Give the people their ability to speak, walk and remember. .. Give back these unfortunate people the chance to live. To live a normal healthy life where they can build themselves and their lives anew. This clinical trial is the only shimmer of light they’ve got to hope on for a cure. So give them the option to choose it. These patients have nothing left to lose.. and they are willing to bet on any prayer they may come across. Give these patients the chance to choose for themselves whether it’s a risk they’re willing to take.

If your loved one is suffering from MS, or you know someone who is, join Scope TV in their petition to continue with the clinical trial. Contact parliament representatives, anyone who can help you push for treatment, and get the people you love the treatment they need.

Thank you Dr Sinan, Dr AlMuzaini and Dr Saffar for fighting for these patients and hopefully, you will have the opportunity to cure a thosand more than just 12 MS patients here in Kuwait.

Dr Tariq Sinan’s Website: http://www.drsinan.com/en/Default.aspx

Facebook Group: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Kuwait/Kuwait-CCSVIMS-starting-community-to-MS-Liberation-research-and-treatment/261778096230

Documentary by  CTV: http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/20100409/w5_liberation_update_100409/20100410?s_name=W5

The Other Side: 5000 KD? Really?

This post is a short response arguing “the other side” of Mad Red’s post entitled “5000 KD? Really?”.

The rationale of handing citizens an enormous 5000 KD is hard to see, yet alone defend. However, in his post, M.R. makes a few assumptions based on “slippery slopes” arguments. Here is a clarification of why those arguments are flawed.

The recent inflation in Kuwait was not an effect of the increase in Salary. At that time, the Kuwaiti Dinar was tied with U.S. Dollar in the currency exchange (perfect correlation). Therefore, when the dollar depreciated, so did the K.D. Kuwait immediately untied its currency from the U.S.D., and hedged it with the Gold market, a very smart move.

In essence, it was the economic crisis in the world that caused the massive inflation in Kuwait, and not an increase in consumer income. One cannot make the assumption that increasing consumer income lead to an increase in demand and therefore an increase in prices, since the 50 KD initial increase is too insignificant on the national scale to cause such a rift.

M.R. suggests that the 5000 KD proposition is a ridiculous mistake that has no upside. However, we have to realize that, in theory, the 5000 K.D. solution is plausible. Kuwait operates in a moderate capitalist economy. In a capitalist state, consumer purchasing power is the main driver of the economy. Governments have a job in maintain consumer purchasing power (create jobs, enterprises, policy, etc). Thus, if the government can afford it, handing citizens a healthy amount of money to sustain purchasing power is theoretically the right decision. It would certainly go a long way to revitalize a slowly dying economy.

M.R. goes on to say that when the government hands over money, it’s never the solution. But if we take a look at how the U.S. handled its recent financial crisis, we might reconsider that suggestion. The U.S. government “handed over” a massive 700 billion dollars for different part of the financial sector, and that made a remarkable impact in securing some of the biggest financial institutes in the world.

In essence, the 5000 KD plan is certainly not based on a well-thought out plan. But we cannot ignore that, in theory, it makes perfect sense for a capitalist economy.

(Every diligent writer needs to argue the other side, and so please note that this post is an argument, and not a belief statement.)

5000kd?! Really?!

Solving problems is a rare talent. One can’t be born with this talent and it can’t be improved. This talent can only be called as “God’s gift”. Few have this rare talent, but others don’t. Nobody can force this talent on himself or on others. So, if you don’t have this RARE talent, don’t portend that you do!! DON’T Suggest Stupid solutions for our problems.
I just read in a local newspaper that one of the MPs just suggested that the government must give 10000kd to every Kuwaiti (over 21years old). Then he suggested that he wants 5000kd and not 10000kd. His suggestion was based on what? Why should the government give us 10000kd and most importantly, will it fix our economy?! A lot of questions that the Mp should’ve thought of before suggesting such a thing!
First of all, let’s see another similar satiation. One can think of the 50kd increase in our salaries as a similar cause. The first thing that happened after that increase was that the prices exploded and everything got very expensive. The problem wasn’t that the prices got high, but the problem was that they stayed that way. The damage can be seen even now. Everything is expensive and there are no laws to stop sellers from increase the prices! All of that, just because of a 50kd increase!
If a lonely and handsome 50kd can damage our economy like that, what will a HUGE 5000kd do!
We don’t want money! All we need is a plan. We need a plan that can fix and improve our finance system. We DON’T need stupid suggestions that will damage our economy for the long run.
We have to realize that getting money won’t solve the problem, but knowing what to do with them is the answer. Although the thought of spending 5000kd is always fun, but I don’t want to spend a onetime high and then return to the same old problems!
We don’t need money; we need solutions from people that actually know how to come up with them.

Mad Reds - 2010

Do we really need blackberries?’

I would like to begin this article by saying that I own not only one blackberry, but two. I don’t use both of them at the same time of course. When I woke up today, I just realized what I really have! After that I started questioning myself and then came the big question!!!!
Do I really need two blackberries?
First, let’s answer the general question! Why do we need Blackberries?
1- Email: I have all of my emails in my blackberry (college email, fun, official) and I use them all. For the college email, I need to always be updated and every email is an important one. My other emails are just for fun.

2-BBM ( the blackberry messenger ) now, the main use of the BBM is that you can text anyone for free and receive jokes. Also receive important (yet fake) news. Waking up in the middle of the night just to receive a joke from a guy I barely know is just ridicules! But I have to say that I enjoy reading jokes sometimes.
That’s it! I can’t find any more reasons for buying a blackberry! I’m amazed how we buy a phone with only two primary features!
The device has only two main features and without these two, it’s basically a normal phone with normal features. Now let’s talk about the disadvantages of having a blackberry..

1- Bluetooth: I hate the way the blackberry sends or even receives anything by Bluetooth! Sending a photo or a ringtone is not easy and it will take you 5 whole minutes to do so!

2-No customization: limited themes. You can’t customize anything! Unlike the blackberry, Nokia has a huge range of themes. It’s always fun to change your icons design!

3-Buy an iPhone: yup, although I’m a blackberry user, I truly think that the iPhone is a better phone! With the iPhone, you have all the things that the blackberry has (thanks to the what’s up application) and more. Having fun with your phone while sending a msg or even taking some pictures and then of course viewing them will be a blast!
Will it be my next phone?!

So why do people buy a blackberry! It is because they don’t have anything to do and just want to full their empty hours with reading lame and old jokes. Am I really benefiting from talking to my friends all the time!!!! Am I that bored that I need a phone to full my time! The answer is a big fat NO! So, why do we use Blackberryz! The simple answer is that we don’t want to do anything else!

If we decided to not spend time on our blackberryz .. we can..

1-We can read! Yes I said reading! So many of us didn’t even read a single book in our lives and we will not start now! So if this guy is willing to spend his day on reading lame jokes! Why not read books! In a book, you will find everything you want! You will find the thing that will full your day! Reading will make you think! Will make you use your brain!

2-We can exercise! Recent statistics shows us that Kuwaiti people are among the top 3 in obesity and there are so many reasons for that, but one of the main reasons is that we are not exercising! When we spend all the time clicking on our blackberries, sending msgs, or just talking to our friends and in the process, EATING anything in front of us! We are gona be FAT .. FAT !

3-Pray: when the time of prayer comes, we always say that I will send this msg or chat whit this guy then I’ll go and pray! Mostly, you will not pray and if you do, you will pray late! Praying is the most spiritual thing to do. If we need to full our hearts with true and pure feelings, all we have to do is just pray!

4-Spending time with family and friends: when we use the blackberry as a way of communication, we won’t have the benefit of FACE-to-FACE contact! You are talking and communicating with words and that’s not healthy! We need to spend more time with our family and friends than to just send msgs!

There are so many reasons for us to stop using blackberryz .. But as we Kuwaitis say: “our uncle is deaf “ .. we mean by that, we can talk and explain why is it bad to use a blackberry, but we won’t change our bad habits in the END!

Is it time to buy a new phone maybe?

Mad Reds – 2010

Re: Slavery.

BO3zez:

I would write in greater detail, but hoping that I don’t miss my flight, I will break it down into a list.

1. You are right about the porters having their “freedom”, BUT that is of no use when they have no means in which to escape their contract. Freedom, yes, but if they cannot afford to buy food, how are they to leave?!

2. 17KD is not exaggerated, you may believe so because it is so shocking, yet I assure you I have spoken to many of these porters and their salary is general knowledge to anyone who works in these hospitals.

3. We can condemn the employers and I do. Not for rape and murder, but for robbery, and any means in which they believe they can attain money. These people are so desperate that they HAVE to find any means to get food. I do not  say it is excusable, yet can we expect any better from someone who is exhausted and starving?! If the employers pay them their pitiful salaries, THEN we can say that they have no business stealing when they are receiving the salaries which they had agreed upon. And let’s not forget that they are promised meals which get deducted out of their salaries and rarely, if ever, get delivered to them.

4. The crimes these people commit are not applaudable yet if you step back for a second, you will realize that to them, it’s their ticket home. And getting rid of these workers? Not graceful. Stupid. Because we cannot function without them.

This is a fact. When they went on strike, before the temporary replacements were brought in, the hospitals were a disaster! So were the roads! Can you imagine that tests could not be sent to the labs in time, patients were lost and couldn’t find the right clinics and everything was filthy. We are talking about a hospital which should be -of all places- hygienic and sterilized.

5. Yes, Kuwait HAS donated to starving countries and HAS paid attention to them. But what good is that when they neglect them on their own land while they have come to serve us!? What they have done, as gracious as it is, is public. But this.. this is reality.

6. No it is not gracious that they are given jobs even if they knew that they couldn’t handle them. Seriously Bo3zez, what living being can vacuum and clean with his body !?!?!?! Are they supposed to lick the tables sterile?! Again, we are talking about a hospital! If they have no means to clean the place properly, then the Kuwaitis (and foreigners) who seek the service of these institutions are put into a filthy, infected, unsterile place. Health care huh?

7. The deserve our sympathy because if we sympathize and help them, then they won’t have a need to commit crime. And then, if they do, we can say we did our part and helped them get what they signed up for. Yes, they CHOSE to come to Kuwait, but they signed a contract that entitled them to food and proper shelter and no contract states that they will have to make do with their limbs and saliva to sanitize hospitals.

The Other Side: “Slavery”

This post is a short response arguing “the other side” of FaithQ8’s post entitled “Slavery”.

FaithQ8, in her most recent post, shed some light on a hurtful truth that encompasses Kuwait and its society. However, as any diligent writer would know, there are two sides to every story. This is the other side.

I must say that I find that title of the original post (and the quite clear message it sends)  to be somewhat misleading. The world slavery ultimately means that one has no freedom and no means by which to attain it. However, in the porters’ situation highlighted by my fellow writer, those employees are under a contract, nothing more, and therefore can leave at any time. Therefore, the term slavery is out of context here.

Although I do not doubt the credibility of the writer, I do feel that some reports can be inaccurate and exaggerated. However, no one can argue that 17KD a month is a dismal salary that leaves no room for any sort of needs, let alone luxuries. Having said that, we cannot attribute the inhumane crimes some of these “workers” commit to be acts of desperation, and we certainly cannot condemn it to be the fault of the employers. I truly cannot see how robbery, murder and brutal rape of children and woman are acts that would want me to raise the pay of these workers. In fact, if anything, banishing them seems to be a more graceful solution.

Yes, many companies take advantage of government grants, and deny the basic rights of porters. Nevertheless, hasn’t the Kuwaiti government donated more than its share of effort and money to every poor country in Africa, and to every crisis-hit area of South Asia? In terms of turning a blind sight, the Kuwaiti government has certainly paid attention to help a starving world.

As for the working conditions and incompetence that my fellow writer mentions (the vacuum story), I ask: is it not out of sympathy that porters are given a job (on the lowest level) even if they cannot handle it? I find it hard to imagine another job that requires any less competence.

We mustn’t be so naïve as to think that those who are pressured into such situations always deserve our sympathy. I absolutely agree that the working conditions in Kuwait are traitorous and in need of change. But I also realize that it is those porters who have chosen to work in Kuwait.

If anything, I praise my country for given everyone not just a chance, but a choice as well.

(As I said, every diligent writer needs to argue the other side, and so please note that this post is an argument, and not a belief statement.)

Slavery.

I was leaning against the walls of one of the halls in one of Kuwait’s hospitals when a heartbreaking scene caught my sight.. Two porters were  standing by the sliding doors of the ER and one of them had found an apple on a chair someone had left behind. He was about to take a bite into  the apple when he noticed the hunger in the eyes of his friend. He cracked the apple in two and shared it with him. The joy that was in their eyes to have been fortunate to eat half a left over apple broke my own heart in two.

These porters are brought to serve us in our hospitals and they are made many promises. Promises of good pay, promises of a roof over their head; a promise that they had believed could be their chance at a better life. They pack up and leave their families behind; siblings, spouses and children who depend completely on whatever these workers can afford to send back.

Those promises are not kept. They are paid 17KD a month IF they’re lucky. Part of that 17KD gets deducted for a room which they share with no less than 10 other workers, and another part gets deducted for food that never gets delivered. They send what’s left back to their starving families and make do with the quarters they get from pushing wheel chairs around the hospital. This is how they survive. While we sleep in our warm beds on a full stomach, they starve and struggle just to make it through to the next day..

And as if that isn’t bad enough, the private companies who bring over these workers have withheld their salaries for the past 10 months. For the past 10 months these workers have received nothing. Not a fils. They’ve gone on from strike to strike and still, nothing is being done. Why? Where is the money? Allow me to explain.

Every year, when the state draws out its balance for the year, it pays these private companies  the full salaries for these workers for the whole year. So where does the money go? Where does over 250 million dinars go? It goes into a saving account in the bank where it accumulates interest and grows. So, while these workers fight their hunger and devastation just to survive one day at a time, while their families wait and receive nothing to relieve them from their poverty, some soul-less, conscience-less, money crazed somebody is making millions of dinars instead of providing these unfortunates their simple needs for basic survival.

The problem is, the banks benefit immensely from these saving accounts and an adjustment from the government to only release salaries on a monthly basis to these companies would cause a drastic fall in banks’ credit. The way these companies have been getting around prosecution is quite simple: whenever the workers go on strike and they are put through investigation by the insurance ministry, they pay off a couple of month’s salaries to these workers just to get themselves off the investigation list and the cycle goes on and on.

The funny thing is these companies try to compensate the health ministry with staff when the original workers are on strike, but supply them with nothing but gloves. This porter came into my mother’s office asking her where to start cleaning and he held out his gloved hands helplessly trying to figure out how he was to vacuum, scrub tables and dust with gloved hands only. .. Seriously?!

I do not blame any one of these workers if they had to steal! And they wonder what’s causing so much crime in our country? These workers are desperate. Not desperate for an escalade or a fancy new dress or a luxury duplex.. they’re desperate to stay alive enough to push around wheelchairs so that they can get something to eat or keep them warm! They are being pressurized to distribute drugs by dealers who know they’re suffering. And in effect? Our own youth are sinking and becoming destroyed.

An investigator once told me you would not believe the number of these workers who commit crimes and purposefully want to get caught. Why? Because that way they’d get deported, since they cannot afford to go back home, or put into jail where at least they know they won’t starve to death.

Why?! Why is a country as rich and educated as ours treating these workers in this barbaric inhumane manner while other countries raise campaigns and charities for them?! Why is the arab world becoming a society with the title of Islam but no Islamic attributes, while other nations are without Islam but live to all it’s teachings?!

It’s in our hands to push for change and increase awareness as people when the government turns a blind eye to these disasters. For the sake of not only these people and our conscience, but also for the sake of the future of our country.